al-sarfah represents a “own-your-stuff" maturity.  as virgo observes the details and outsmarts the end game, here with lunar mansion 12 - al-sarfah, we realize that happiness (or unhappiness) is an inside job.  a common misconception is that others should treat us in x,y, z manner. and if not, we feel justified in being hurt, angry and unhappy.  with lunar mansion 12, we eventually grow into the realization that how others treat us is a commentary about them and never about us. however convincing it may seem that ill treatment is personal, through the insights of lunar mansion 12 - al-sarfah, we can realign and refocus on the only real objective that counts. how lovingly we treat ourselves.